AMAR SIN APEARSE DE LA VIDA
Literatura, teorías, modelos, y demás construcciones para la descripción de un sentimiento como el Amor las encontramos por doquier.
Pero: ¿cómo vive cada uno el Amor? ¿Desde dónde partimos? ¿Qué entendemos y qué sentimos cuando amamos? ¿Sentimos o pensamos? ¿Es algo corpóreo o espiritual? ¿A dónde nos lleva? ¿A dónde nos acerca? ¿Hay límites o los trascendemos? ¿Somos románticos? ¿Sentimos apego? ¿Pedimos permiso para amar? ¿Amamos a nuestra manera?
Desde Publio Ovidio y su Ars amandi, pasando por Sigmund Freud hasta Erich Fromm y su Arte de amar, y tantos otros estudiosos, literatos, investigadores, antropólogos, sociólogos, y —últimamente— otras modernas tipologías de personajes, con más o menos profesionalidad en sus avales, y atreviéndose a postear cualquier clase de comentario cuando hablamos del AMOR… el abanico es hoy amplio y surtido respecto al tema.
Fromm escribía estas frases que comparto, entre muchas otras, que no rescataré aquí:
“La satisfacción en el amor individual no puede lograrse sin la capacidad de amar al prójimo, sin humildad, coraje, fe y disciplina. En una cultura en la cual esas cualidades son raras, también ha de ser rara la capacidad de amar. Quien no lo crea, que se pregunte a sí mismo a cuántas personas verdaderamente capaces de amar ha conocido.”
Y me atrevería a decir que no son palabras, las de Erich Fromm, que hoy en día, a pesar de pertenecer a otro siglo, se hayan quedado anticuadas. A veces, incluso, cobran en la sociedad actual un significado más potente. Que cada uno ama a su manera y vibra diferente es una obviedad. Que estamos impregnados culturalmente hablando de la coyuntura que nos tocó vivir, también. Que biológicamente hay valores que nos predisponen a vivirnos de una manera determinada y no otra, también. Pero que no es tan solo lo biológico y lo cultural, sino la propia BIOGRAFÍA la que hace que mis relaciones sean unas u otras, no es para todos tan evidente.
La Empatía es necesaria y no todo el mundo dispone de ella. Ponerse literalmente en el lugar del otro y meterse en sus zapatos, es difícil tarea. Es esta, una capacidad extraordinaria y básica como terapeutas para entender el mundo del cliente. Sin ella, difícil establecer una relación terapéutica que pueda ser exitosa. No imponer, no adoctrinar, queremos recoger de dentro de la persona todo SU potencial; aquel que se puede hacer valer y realzarlo, darle su lugar en el proceso terapéutico. No se trata simplemente de sustituir patrones o “dar de baja” acciones y comportamientos disfuncionales. En el amor, hay fortaleza y debilidad, y ayudar a canalizar, a quitar capas, a desmembrar si hace falta conceptos y actitudes no es siempre una mera deconstrucción. Quizá se trate, en ocasiones, de reubicar, priorizar, jerarquizar u ordenar las mismas cosas de manera diferente, sin inventar nuevos modelos amorosos postmodernos, para que funcionen sin necesariamente desmoronar los cimientos, léase valores.
En cualquier caso, nosotros somos facilitadores —dicho muy humanísticamente—, no arquitectos, y no considero que sea nuestra misión, “decidir las estructuras” de la casa de nadie.
En realidad, insisto, existen tantas maneras de entender el AMOR como personas. Hay tantas maneras de establecer vínculos como humanos en la capa de la tierra. Y cada persona conjuga el AMAR con sus propios verbos. No hay modelos perfectos, pero sí muchos modelos que lo pretenden y, por ende, personas detrás de ellos; más obsoletos, más trendy, más constantes en el tiempo o más fugaces y pasajeros. A cuál se acoge cada persona para vivir el amor, forma parte de su propia idiosincrasia, de cómo se ha creado su manera de ver la vida en general, de establecer relaciones, de construir significados, de relacionarse y vivirse. No quiero hacer dogma de mi manera de pensar, sentir o vivir el amor, ni es aquí la intención. Pero si abogo porque cada PERSONA pueda decidir libremente como AMAR a la vida, sin dañar al prójimo y sin dañarse a sí mismo.
Yo conjugo el verbo amar como sigue:
© Con la A de sin forzar, sin mal-tratar, sin juzgar, sin demandar, sin abarcar, sin aparentar, sin esperar, sin necesitar, sin acumular, y sin limitar.
© Con la E de sin poseer, sin convencer, sin obedecer, sin pretender, sin merecer o sin desmerecer, sin desatender y sin detener, sin perder, y sin temer.
© Y con la I de sin dirigir, sin exigir, sin mentir, sin insistir y sin pedir.
En definitiva, AMAR sin apearse de la VIDA… Se me ocurren algunos ítems para las personas que se identifiquen con mi manera de amar, con mi manera de existir en el mundo, con mi manera de entender el AMOR.
Ahí los dejo plasmados.
Hagan uso de lo que les funcione, lo que les resulte agradable, lo que les transmita paz…y tiren a la papelera, por favor, lo que no encuentren que les beneficie.
Mi decálogo para el “BUEN AMOR”
- Ámate a ti mismo en tu singularidad, como el ser único e irrepetible que eres. Nadie, absolutamente nadie, es como tú, y ello te hace RICO.
2. Ámate holísticamente, en tu enteridad: eres más que la suma de tus partes. Eres más que tus problemas. Ello te hace constituirte integrado, como un TODO que es capaz de ofrecer mejores respuestas a todos los niveles humanos.
3. Ámate con tus fortalezas y tus fragilidades. Eres humano. Eres débil y fuerte a la vez. Ello te hace reconocerte en la vulnerabilidad y saberte resiliente.
4. Ámate en relación con los demás. Porque tú eres en construcción con los otros. Te amas al amar la alteridad y te construyes gracias a esa interdependencia. Si te amo me amo, si me amo te amo.
5. Ámate dando, siendo y sintiendo. Conjuga los verbos DAR, SER Y SENTIR. No se entrega esperando, no se es si no se da y no se siente si no se es. Ello te hará amar de manera auténtica. Pura. Sin filtros.
6. Ama con pasión y creatividad, poniendo el alma en ello, en todo lo que realices. Embelésate, crea, y apasiónate por aquello que llevas a cabo. Solo así puedes amar más allá de los límites que tu propio pensamiento te pone.
7. Ama con admiración. Perdemos la capacidad de admirar, la ganas de saber, la sed de conocimiento. La capacidad de ensamblar, construir y reconstruir bellos instantes que conforman nuestra vida cotidiana. Ama la vida. Expresa tu admiración. No es vergonzoso, es bello.
8. Ama con compasión. Con sentimiento de identificación cuando el otro se duele. Con ternura, con cariño. Con sensibilidad ante tu sufrimiento y el dolor ajeno. Ama la debilidad del otro. Ama la imperfección, pues nada es perfecto. Ello te aliviará, te hará sentir bondadoso.
9. Ama el Universo, el mundo que te rodea, la naturaleza. Parte de una cosmovisión que vaya más allá, que trascienda al ser humano. No somos únicos en este planeta. Ello te hará no poner límites a lo ilimitable. A ir más allá de las barreras físicas. A establecer conexiones AUTÉNTICAS fuera de las fronteras de lo corpóreo y a entrar en tu dimensión espiritual. ¿Hay algo acaso más ALMÁTICO que el amor bien entendido?
10. Ama a tu manera. No hagas caso de ningún decálogo del buen amor, ni aceptes que te impongan un modelo. Apaga las intromisiones. Enciende tu corazón y mira adentro. Ello te hará ser LIBRE.
Y no quería terminar este artículo sin introducir uno de mis textos favoritos a propósito del AMOR, que una vez leí y aún recuerdo:
“Aunque hablara las lenguas de los hombres y de los ángeles… aunque tuviera el don de la profecía y conociera todos los misterios y la ciencia; y aunque mi fe fuese tan grande como para trasladar montañas, si no tengo amor, no soy nada”.
PABLO, Carta a los Corintios
70 comentarios en «AMAR SIN APEARSE DE LA VIDA»
I always used to read post in news papers but now as I am a user of web so from now I am using net for posts, thanks to web.
Good info. Lucky me I ran across your site by accident (stumbleupon). I have bookmarked it for later!
I don’t know if it’s just me or if everyone else experiencing problems with your blog. It appears like some of the text within your posts are running off the screen. Can someone else please comment and let me know if this is happening to them too? This could be a problem with my web browser because I’ve had this happen before. Kudos
Hi everyone, it’s my first visit at this site, and article is really fruitful designed for me, keep up posting such posts.
What’s up friends, its enormous article regarding tutoringand completely explained, keep it up all the time.
Hi i am kavin, its my first time to commenting anywhere, when i read this article i thought i could also make comment due to this brilliant post.
I have been surfing online more than three hours these days, yet I never found any interesting article like yours. It’s lovely value enough for me. In my opinion, if all webmasters and bloggers made just right content as you did, the net will be much more useful than ever before.
hey there and thank you for your information I’ve definitely picked up anything new from right here. I did however expertise a few technical issues using this site, since I experienced to reload the site a lot of times previous to I could get it to load properly. I had been wondering if your web hosting is OK? Not that I am complaining, but sluggish loading instances times will often affect your placement in google and can damage your quality score if advertising and marketing with Adwords. Anyway I’m adding this RSS to my e-mail and can look out for a lot more of your respective interesting content. Make sure you update this again soon.
of course like your website however you need to check the spelling on quite a few of your posts. A number of them are rife with spelling problems and I in finding it very bothersome to tell the truth on the other hand I will certainly come back again.
Hi, I think your blog might be having browser compatibility issues. When I look at your blog in Ie, it looks fine but when opening in Internet Explorer, it has some overlapping. I just wanted to give you a quick heads up! Other then that, great blog!
I am truly happy to read this weblog posts which includes plenty of helpful information, thanks for providing such information.
Hello there! This is my first visit to your blog! We are a collection of volunteers and starting a new initiative in a community in the same niche. Your blog provided us useful information to work on. You have done a outstanding job!
You really make it seem so easy with your presentation but I find this topic to be really something which I think I would never understand. It seems too complicated and very broad for me. I am looking forward for your next post, I will try to get the hang of it!
I have been surfing online more than 3 hours today, yet I never found any interesting article like yours. It’s pretty worth enough for me. In my opinion, if all website owners and bloggers made good content as you did, the net will be much more useful than ever before.
Because the admin of this site is working, no doubt very quickly it will be well-known, due to its quality contents.
Hey there just wanted to give you a quick heads up and let you know a few of the images aren’t loading correctly. I’m not sure why but I think its a linking issue. I’ve tried it in two different browsers and both show the same results.
I delight in, cause I found exactly what I used to be looking for. You have ended my 4 day long hunt! God Bless you man. Have a nice day. Bye
Appreciation to my father who informed me about this blog, this website is actually awesome.
You’ve made some decent points there. I looked on the web to find out more about the issue and found most individuals will go along with your views on this website.
I think this is one of the most important information for me. And i’m glad reading your article. But wanna remark on few general things, The site style is great, the articles is really nice : D. Good job, cheers
It’s awesome in favor of me to have a site, which is useful for my experience. thanks admin
Hey I am so happy I found your site, I really found you by mistake, while I was searching on Bing for something else, Nonetheless I am here now and would just like to say cheers for a marvelous post and a all round exciting blog (I also love the theme/design), I dont have time to browse it all at the minute but I have saved it and also added in your RSS feeds, so when I have time I will be back to read a lot more, Please do keep up the superb b.
Hi there to every body, it’s my first visit of this blog; this webpage consists of awesome and actually fine stuff for readers.
A fascinating discussion is worth comment. I believe that you should write more on this subject, it might not be a taboo subject but usually people don’t discuss such subjects. To the next! Kind regards!!
What’s up i am kavin, its my first time to commenting anywhere, when i read this piece of writing i thought i could also make comment due to this brilliant piece of writing.
I used to be recommended this blog by means of my cousin. I am now not sure whether this publish is written through him as no one else understand such targeted approximately my problem. You are wonderful! Thank you!
Pretty nice post. I just stumbled upon your blog and wanted to say that I have really enjoyed browsing your blog posts. In any case I’ll be subscribing to your feed and I hope you write again soon!
You really make it seem so easy with your presentation however I find this topic to be really something which I feel I might never understand. It sort of feels too complicated and very vast for me. I am looking forward on your next post, I will try to get the cling of it!
I’m impressed, I must say. Rarely do I encounter a blog that’s equally educative and interesting, and let me tell you, you have hit the nail on the head. The issue is something that not enough folks are speaking intelligently about. I’m very happy that I stumbled across this in my search for something relating to this.
What i do not realize is in fact how you’re not really a lot more well-liked than you may be right now. You are so intelligent. You realize therefore significantly relating to this topic, produced me personally consider it from numerous various angles. Its like men and women don’t seem to be interested until it’s something to accomplish with Woman gaga! Your personal stuffs nice. Always maintain it up!
Hmm it seems like your website ate my first comment (it was extremely long) so I guess I’ll just sum it up what I submitted and say, I’m thoroughly enjoying your blog. I as well am an aspiring blog blogger but I’m still new to the whole thing. Do you have any tips and hints for first-time blog writers? I’d genuinely appreciate it.
Nice respond in return of this query with real arguments and describing everything regarding that.
I think this is one of the most significant information for me. And i’m glad reading your article. But want to remark on few general things, The website style is perfect, the articles is really excellent : D. Good job, cheers
You can definitely see your enthusiasm in the article you write. The arena hopes for more passionate writers like you who aren’t afraid to mention how they believe. Always go after your heart.
These are in fact enormous ideas in concerning blogging. You have touched some nice factors here. Any way keep up wrinting.
I simply could not leave your site prior to suggesting that I really enjoyed the standard information a person supply on your visitors? Is going to be back regularly in order to inspect new posts
Heya! I just wanted to ask if you ever have any problems with hackers? My last blog (wordpress) was hacked and I ended up losing a few months of hard work due to no data backup. Do you have any solutions to protect against hackers?
Have you ever thought about creating an e-book or guest authoring on other websites? I have a blog centered on the same subjects you discuss and would really like to have you share some stories/information. I know my viewers would value your work. If you are even remotely interested, feel free to send me an e-mail.
Превосходный частный эромассаж Москва с сауной
Hello there, just became aware of your blog through Google, and found that it is really informative. I’m gonna watch out for brussels. I will appreciate if you continue this in future. A lot of people will be benefited from your writing. Cheers!
Way cool! Some very valid points! I appreciate you writing this post and also the rest of the site is also really good.
Hi I am so glad I found your web site, I really found you by mistake, while I was researching on Aol for something else, Anyhow I am here now and would just like to say kudos for a marvelous post and a all round exciting blog (I also love the theme/design), I don’t have time to go through it all at the minute but I have saved it and also included your RSS feeds, so when I have time I will be back to read a lot more, Please do keep up the fantastic job.
Way cool! Some very valid points! I appreciate you writing this post and also the rest of the site is extremely good.
What’s up to every body, it’s my first go to see of this weblog; this website contains remarkable and really good data in favor of readers.
Heya i’m for the first time here. I came across this board and I find It truly useful & it helped me out a lot. I hope to give something back and help others like you helped me.
Hi, I log on to your blogs regularly. Your story-telling style is awesome, keep up the good work!
Hi, I do believe this is an excellent web site. I stumbledupon it 😉 I will come back once again since I book marked it. Money and freedom is the best way to change, may you be rich and continue to help other people.
My spouse and I stumbled over here coming from a different web page and thought I might as well check things out. I like what I see so now i am following you. Look forward to exploring your web page for a second time.
Hey! Quick question that’s entirely off topic. Do you know how to make your site mobile friendly? My website looks weird when viewing from my iphone 4. I’m trying to find a theme or plugin that might be able to correct this problem. If you have any suggestions, please share. Thanks!
Hi there! Would you mind if I share your blog with my zynga group? There’s a lot of people that I think would really enjoy your content. Please let me know. Thank you
Have you ever thought about creating an e-book or guest authoring on other websites? I have a blog based upon on the same subjects you discuss and would really like to have you share some stories/information. I know my audience would value your work. If you are even remotely interested, feel free to send me an e-mail.
It’s really a nice and helpful piece of information. I’m glad that you simply shared this helpful info with us. Please stay us informed like this. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks to my father who told me about this website, this weblog is actually remarkable.
Fantastic site you have here but I was curious about if you knew of any community forums that cover the same topics talked about in this article? I’d really love to be a part of group where I can get advice from other knowledgeable individuals that share the same interest. If you have any recommendations, please let me know. Kudos!
First off I want to say fantastic blog! I had a quick question that I’d like to ask if you don’t mind. I was curious to know how you center yourself and clear your thoughts before writing. I have had a hard time clearing my mind in getting my thoughts out. I do enjoy writing but it just seems like the first 10 to 15 minutes are usually wasted just trying to figure out how to begin. Any suggestions or tips? Thanks!
Pretty! This was a really wonderful post. Thank you for providing this info.
Fantastic goods from you, man. I’ve bear in mind your stuff prior to and you’re simply too great. I really like what you’ve got here, really like what you’re stating and the way by which you assert it. You are making it entertaining and you still take care of to stay it smart. I can not wait to read far more from you. This is actually a wonderful website.
Wow, that’s what I was looking for, what a data! present here at this weblog, thanks admin of this site.
When I originally commented I clicked the “Notify me when new comments are added” checkbox and now each time a comment is added I get four emails with the same comment. Is there any way you can remove me from that service? Appreciate it!
I was recommended this website by my cousin. I am not sure whether this post is written by him as no one else know such detailed about my difficulty. You are wonderful! Thanks!
You’re so cool! I don’t suppose I have read something like this before. So good to find somebody with some unique thoughts on this subject. Really.. thanks for starting this up. This site is something that’s needed on the web, someone with some originality!
Быстромонтируемые здания – это актуальные сооружения, которые отличаются большой скоростью строительства и гибкостью. Они представляют собой здания, заключающиеся из заранее изготовленных составляющих либо узлов, которые способны быть быстро собраны в месте стройки.
Монтаж быстровозводимых зданий из сэндвич панелей отличаются гибкостью а также адаптируемостью, что дает возможность легко менять а также адаптировать их в соответствии с нуждами покупателя. Это экономически эффективное и экологически устойчивое решение, которое в последние лета получило широкое распространение.
It’s really a nice and helpful piece of information. I’m satisfied that you shared this helpful info with us. Please stay us informed like this. Thank you for sharing.
I don’t know if it’s just me or if everyone else experiencing problems with your website. It appears like some of the text on your posts are running off the screen. Can someone else please comment and let me know if this is happening to them too? This might be a problem with my browser because I’ve had this happen before. Appreciate it
Thanks for sharing such a good thought, post is pleasant, thats why i have read it completely
Great web site you have here.. It’s hard to find high-quality writing like yours these days. I really appreciate people like you! Take care!!
Unquestionably believe that that you stated. Your favourite justification appeared to be at the net the simplest thing to bear in mind of. I say to you, I definitely get irked whilst other folks consider worries that they plainly do not recognize about. You controlled to hit the nail upon the top as smartly as defined out the whole thing with no need side effect , other people can take a signal. Will likely be back to get more. Thank you
Excellent website you have here but I was wanting to know if you knew of any community forums that cover the same topics talked about in this article? I’d really love to be a part of online community where I can get feed-back from other knowledgeable individuals that share the same interest. If you have any recommendations, please let me know. Bless you!
Excellent blog you’ve got here.. It’s hard to find high quality writing like yours these days. I seriously appreciate people like you! Take care!!